Dating.....

Dave - 10-22-2008 at 11:48 AM

what is everyones opinion on dating someone whom has children?

Its something that i've never really thought about before, but i'm sure that the older i get, (as i'm not getting any younger here) that it could come up.

I myself, don't really want kids, i'm not really comfortable with the interaction with them... (except for with my little cousins)

So just throwing this out there, anyone ever dated someone who had/has kids? or has anyone here who has kids ever dated...

and for the record, [for my buddy's] i'm not dating nor looking right now, i'm kinda enjoying my time being single right now. But at some point, (who the hell knows when) I will meet someone....

SS76 - 10-22-2008 at 12:20 PM

I could never do it...walking, talking proof some other guy busted a nut in your woman. Damaged goods as far as I'm concerned, but thats just my opinion.

Dave - 10-22-2008 at 12:22 PM

haha that is wicked... well i never thought of it that way before...

Discipline - 10-22-2008 at 01:38 PM

I have no interest in ever having children so I couldn't date a woman with kids. Not a situation I want to be involved with.

Furly - 10-22-2008 at 02:12 PM

I dated a dude that had a baby. Being away from the kid killed him. He dumped me to get her back, and eventually it worked.

I also dated a dude that had 3 kids, only took care of one, and while we were together he found out he had an 11 year old in Louisiana. I could NEVER get serious in that situation.

I personally want to get married someday and have a baby. Dosn't actually mean it's going to happen though.

If Mr Right came along and had a kid, I guess it all depends on the situation with the baby mama. If both have moved on, yet stay friends and he is actually as good of a dad he can be,.... then I'd let him cook me dinner and take it slowly from there.

JawnDiablo - 10-22-2008 at 02:17 PM

I'm on the other side of this coin.
I have an 11 year old son, whom is a big part of my life. I have dated a few broads who came to discover they didn't want the competition for attention / weren't mature enough for the situation. whatever. I moved on and found someone special who I've been with for over 2 years now ( long time for me).
I've also dated chicks who also had kids, but these ones were kinda disasters with major drama still between the ex or just a stick up their asses who wanted to mold me into whatever they didnt have before. Didn't happen.

JawnDiablo - 10-22-2008 at 02:17 PM

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Originally posted by Shootingscars
I could never do it...walking, talking proof some other guy busted a nut in your woman. Damaged goods as far as I'm concerned, but thats just my opinion.

so you only date virgins?

Furly - 10-22-2008 at 02:26 PM

A buddy of mine also refuses to go near a woman that has had a kid. The thought of it freaks him out.

A baby came out of where,.... ewwwwwww

SS76 - 10-22-2008 at 03:41 PM

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Originally posted by Shootingscars
I could never do it...walking, talking proof some other guy busted a nut in your woman. Damaged goods as far as I'm concerned, but thats just my opinion.

so you only date virgins?

Dated 1 virgin in 8th grade, but I was too.Virginity didn't last long. Never been with a girl that had a kid.....the thought of something bigger than my fist squeezing out of her fuckhole turns me off.

ShawnRefuse - 10-22-2008 at 03:54 PM

if it was the right person, i'd consider it. but as of now, nope.

not sure I would ever want to be a step father though. i never had much luck getting along with my stepmothers

Dave - 10-22-2008 at 03:55 PM

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Originally posted by Shootingscars

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Originally posted by juandiablo

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Originally posted by Shootingscars
I could never do it...walking, talking proof some other guy busted a nut in your woman. Damaged goods as far as I'm concerned, but thats just my opinion.

so you only date virgins?

woa!

Furly - 10-22-2008 at 05:31 PM

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Originally posted by Shootingscars

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Originally posted by juandiablo

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Originally posted by Shootingscars
I could never do it...walking, talking proof some other guy busted a nut in your woman. Damaged goods as far as I'm concerned, but thats just my opinion.

so you only date virgins?

hahahahaha!

I can't say I blame ya. The whole hole thing freaks me out just thinking about it. And I hear they snip ya between the girls 2 holes. yeah. FUCK THAT!

I think I'd rather they just cut open my stomach and rip the little sucka out.

Siczine.com - 10-22-2008 at 05:35 PM

I thought about this before and I think I would be able to do handle it once I am ready to even have kids.

I guess I have a different perspective because the main father figure in my life was my step pop and he was a better dad than my biological donor. He was actually my neighbor and my step brother was actually my best friend before our two families came together.

BDx13 - 10-22-2008 at 06:22 PM

^ that's a wild story.
good for you.

moforn - 10-22-2008 at 09:35 PM

I'd be reluctant just because I don't really feel mature/grounded enough right now to be a fixture in a kid's life.
On the other hand, for the right girl I could probably get past it and rise to the occasion.

Mark Lind - 10-22-2008 at 09:51 PM

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Originally posted by Dave
what is everyones opinion on dating someone whom has children?

Its something that i've never really thought about before, but i'm sure that the older i get, (as i'm not getting any younger here) that it could come up.

I myself, don't really want kids, i'm not really comfortable with the interaction with them... (except for with my little cousins)

So just throwing this out there, anyone ever dated someone who had/has kids? or has anyone here who has kids ever dated...

and for the record, [for my buddy's] i'm not dating nor looking right now, i'm kinda enjoying my time being single right now. But at some point, (who the hell knows when) I will meet someone....

No high fives.
No shorts.
No broads with kids.
No potato salad.

Those are my 4 rules in life.

JawnDiablo - 10-22-2008 at 09:53 PM

what you have against Potato Salad?
that shit am tasty!

Dave - 10-22-2008 at 10:32 PM

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Originally posted by juandiablo
what you have against Potato Salad?
that shit am tasty!

i hate potato salad....love mashed potatoes tho.....

SS76 - 10-22-2008 at 10:53 PM

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i hate potato salad....love mashed potatoes tho.....

same here

bombidol - 10-23-2008 at 04:15 AM

Dude, shorts are awesome. Potato salad aint great.

Dave - 10-23-2008 at 09:28 AM

now here is another take...what about age difference?

now i've never dated anyone whom was older than i was.(eg: born the same year)

I've always thought that there was a buffer zone that everyone is comfortable with, mine would have to be, like maybe 3 years my senior, and 4-5 years younger...what is your comfort zone on ages?

[Lionel your not allowed to comment on this question, because we all know that your range is whomever will buy you a drink at a bar]

JawnDiablo - 10-23-2008 at 10:04 AM

at 34 my age range is like 25-40 I guess.....

BDx13 - 10-23-2008 at 10:17 AM

hey-oooooo, Lionel!!!

dating a woman with a child? i dunno. at this point in my life, i think it would depend on when that fact came up. i think if i knew from the beginning, i might not be too psyched. seems like a lot of potential baggage. but if i had spent some time developing a significant relationship with the person, then it came out, i might be more vested in it. i wouldn't call it dating, but when i was like 20, i was kind of seeing someone that had a kid. but she was super hot and the child lived with its grandmother. oddly, i was ok with the kid part...but i broke it off when she started working at a strip club. i tried to rationalize it, but the first time i picked her up from work, i was like, 'this is fucked'. ha!

BDx13 - 10-23-2008 at 10:19 AM

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Originally posted by Dave
now here is another take...what about age difference?

when i was younger and dating, it ranged from three years older to three years younger.
if i were dating now, i think i'd be open to a wider range, but it depends on the person.

Dave - 10-23-2008 at 10:30 AM

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Originally posted by juandiablo
at 34 my age range is like 25-40 I guess.....

i think at 35 i'd have to go with 29-38.....

Dave - 10-23-2008 at 10:32 AM

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Originally posted by BD
hey-oooooo, Lionel!!!

lol i think my favorite was Lionel's woman, who had kids the same age as he was!

"buy me a beer and you can keep me for the night?"
i believe that's where it all started! :thumbup:

classic Lionel!

BDx13 - 10-23-2008 at 10:37 AM

AAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAAA!!!1