We have another child- Just an update (sorry- long)

We have our second foster care placement now. He is a little boy, three and a half, but fairly signifigantly delayed.
He was severely neglected so he has the language development of a 1 year old, and the cognative abilities of a 2 year old. Physically though he is every bit of 3 and a half. Which makes him dangerous..lol. He is big enough and coordinated enough to get into everything but has NO FEAR and no concept of danger.

You would think that because he doesn't communicate well and I can't understand him half the time that he would become frustrated and tantrum but he is really the sweetest child. He is such a lover.. always wants to be sitting near you or on you.

He is doing SO well. I put him on a strict schedule and we have stuck to that everyday, so he was sleeping 10 hours within 5 days... and he has learned about 100 new words in 3 weeks. He'll start speech therapy soon, but we're working with him already.


I wish I could tell you guys how crazy this case is, but as usual it's all hush hush. But.... this one really MAY go to adoption quickly. REALLY REALLY quickly because his dad (the only relative that we know of) has already asked to sign away his rights. (Because he's a total piece of shit-.. It's really the best thing for "B".. but why did he DRAG him around and neglect him for almost 4 years BEFORE doing the right thing?!)

when and if..(you guys know the drill) I'll be posting LOTS of pics of him. He's a doll baby.


I never know if I should say anything.. I don't want to push this stuff on you guys, but you did seem really interested the last time...

awesome you're giving it another chance. good on you

Round of applause!

Good for you
and good for the lil guy
hope everything works out for ya'll

Thanks for the support guys!

We are so in love with him. It will be a month he's been here on 7/7/09. Also the date of his first big court hearing and the day we get our new central A/C Woohoo!!! We'll be celebrating on Tuesday!

Clevo- I know what you mean.... just watching him improve everyday is amazing. He's a different kid than he was just 3 weeks ago. He babbles and giggles and is just the sweetest thing.

It's late and I'm about to ramble, but what the hell....

Being a foster parent is really crazy. It's SO much harder than I thought it would be, and I read all the right books and talked to the right people and went to seminars beforehand. It's like... having a new husband show up, and expect me to do all the things I would normal do for a husband... but there is no bond, no instant connection.... so it's frustrating, and expasterating, and just ridiculously hard. But it's also insane how quickly that bond starts to develop. How you can begin to love and cerish a child you had nothing to do with making. and how angry you feel at the people who hurt him so badly.
He has healed now... but the first week it was hard to take him anywhere.. he face was so banged up and his little body was just covered in bruises. and everywhere we went people (mostly women) would GLARE at me.. and I had to NOT say anything. It was HARD.

This week at daycare he got into trouble for stealing food from the trash. The teacher gave me a hard time about it.. she KNOWS he is a foster child. Granted she doesn't know that they were homeless and that he probably got food from the trash a LOT of the time, and it is impossible to fix 3.5 years in 3 weeks.. and he probably still doesn't trust that we will feed him again in 3 hours. BUT.. It still hurt me so so much. By the way I am moving him to a preschool who has multiple kids with special needs so he can get the one on one care he really deserves.

ok.. sorry for rambling.. again.. thanks for the support

Couldn't have said it better.