maybe i care to much??

Lucabrasi - 12-18-2005 at 11:38 AM

One of my good friends is really fucking his life up. Ive known him for 8 years and he wasnt this bad back in highschool but once he went to college he was doing alot of coke, popping pills and drinking. He works alot, like 10-12 hour days and comes home and just wants to get fucked up. I try talking to him but it doesnt really do any good. Lastnight my friends and I were hanging out at his place and he was snorting ritilins (sp?) and getting wasted. Now i am not sXe ive done my share of drugs (coke,acid,shrooms,etc) but ive come to the conclusion that its time i grow the fuck up and do something with myself. He tells me he drinks to much and has a drinking problem and then the next night he is getting hammered,staying up until 4 and having to work at 8 in the morning. Then he says he is fine he just needs to control his temper. Its like my friends and i have to babysit him whenever we go out. I wish he would grow the fuck up. Anyone here have friends like this?

GabeTexasGAMC - 12-18-2005 at 12:55 PM

I have a lot of scumbag friends like this.
Fuck them though... theyre old enough to make their own choices... like the choice to be a druggy douchebag. Theyre my friends.... but i dont/wont take care of them. I try not to put myself in a situation that requires me to try to take care of someone thats pretty fucked up/wired out in drugs.

jonnynewbreed - 12-18-2005 at 01:45 PM

Buy him the book " A million little pieces". I just finished reading it and it is crazy.

clevohardcore - 12-18-2005 at 02:18 PM

Luca,,, You sound jsut like me about 5 years ago. I ahve some frineds who went done certain roads and a few who came back who sounded just like your friend. I grew up around this dude since age 12. got into weed coke and pretty much everything else I guess. I remember him coming over to my apratment wanting to get a job and straighten his life out. Later that evening a bunch of us went to a bar and then a party and dude was again fucked up and talking shit like hes hard and doesn't need anyone telling him what to do. Later that week was FURY OF FIVE and dude was hammered all fucking day long. Anyway some bad shit happened with him and whatever the case. About a year later he found a girl who straightened his ass up and well lets just say he got into an apprenticeship and is now living really well. Dudes got a phat brand new house and a new baby. The person has to want to straighten his life up man and no one can do it for him. Its all on him. We tried but our friend wasn't listening. Maybe he was but wasn't ready I don't know.

Lucabrasi - 12-18-2005 at 03:29 PM

Clevo your friend sounds EXACTLY like mine. Acting all hard and shit when he is drunk at the bar, making a big scene, throwing chairs and pushing over tables. Its embarassing. I dont need him to prove to me how tough he is, in fact when he does that it doesnt make him look tough at all , he looks like a idiot. I guess you guys are right though, i can only do so much. I told him im willing to help him anyway i can, ill goto AA meetings with him and if he needs someone to talk to im there. I mean thats what friends are all about. But he needs to put some effort into straightening out his life.

GabeTexasGAMC - 12-18-2005 at 03:53 PM

youre a good friend dawg.

Discipline - 12-18-2005 at 04:25 PM

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Originally posted by GabeTexasGAMC
I have a lot of scumbag friends like this.
Fuck them though... theyre old enough to make their own choices... like the choice to be a druggy douchebag. Theyre my friends.... but i dont/wont take care of them. I try not to put myself in a situation that requires me to try to take care of someone thats pretty fucked up/wired out in drugs.

Barnesey - 12-18-2005 at 09:10 PM

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Originally posted by jonnynewbreed
Buy him the book " A million little pieces". I just finished reading it and it is crazy.

That book was great and I barely put it down. I just ordered the follow up book "My Friend Leonard". It's great to see someone that doesn't need the crutch of A.A. to clean their life up. I was initially extremely skeptical of reading it because it was in Oprah's Book Club. I am in no way a saint and hardly SxE but when your friend is fucking up the only way is to cut them off. That's the only way they'll realize the impact of their behavior. Not saying it will work definitely but there's a better chance.

upyerbum - 12-19-2005 at 05:45 PM

Tough love, man. Be there for him, but refuse to help him fuck up. Its the only way, he'll sink or he'll swim, just don't sink with him.