I come from a really small family and while we have our fair share of drama, we dont really have that many trials or tribulations. 2007 has started
off differently unfortunantly....
My grandfather has been in the hospital for a couple of weeks now. Hes having some issues with his pancreas and a few other internal things.
Unfortunantly hes also being difficult about things. The other day he was scheduled for an MRI and when they got him there he refused to go through
with the procedure. When the doctors told him that he could die if he didnt have it so they could see what was going on inside him, he told them that
he didnt give a damn. Ive seen him a bunch since hes been in the hospital and yesterday I offered to go with him for the MRI if he wanted some moral
support, but I didnt hear from the hospital about anything today.
As if that wasnt enough, we got a call today that my cousin Patrick had an accident at work. A piece of 8" PVC piping fell on his neck. I dont know
all the details yet, but my dad talked to his dad and found out that he has 3 broken vertebrea in his neck. Right now he cant move at all and at best
they are thinking that after surgery he might be able to use his arms, but not hands and most likely wont be able to walk.
Right in the middle of typing this I got another phone call from my grandmother and aparently my uncle visited my grandfather today who refused to go
for the MRI again and says he just rather die. My mom is on dissabilitie and is basicly totally reliant on my grandmother for most things. My
grandmother has offered to take her to the hospital to visit my grandfather multiple times. Well my mom is so fucking self absorbed and so just plain
crazy that she has not visited my grandfather at all. To make matters worse... she hasnt actually seen him in person in over 3 fucking years! She
talks to him and when something is wrong (like this trip to the hospital) she crys to everyone that she only has one father and blah blah blah, but
when it comes down to it her actions show that she doesnt give a shit about anyone! hell... I havent talked to her in over a year because shes so
verbally abusive most of the time.... Fuck, why does she get to live and my grandfather has to suffer.
Its times like this that family almost seems like more trouble than its worth!moforn - 2-14-2007 at 09:23 PM
Hell, I don't know what to tell you- sounds like a rotten situation, good luck with everything.newbreedbrian - 2-15-2007 at 12:22 AM
shitty deal honus. i know what it's like to have a fucked up family man, makes things really hard sometimes for sure. i don't really have any answers,
just that we can only play the cards we're dealt.Voodoobillyman - 2-15-2007 at 11:43 AM
Yer grandad sound like an ornery old fella, lots of spunk and such. reminds me of my grandad. He would put up the same kind of hellish fight over that
same kind of situation. I say let him know how important he is to you and that it means alot to you personally if he would just go through with the
MRI. Maybe that would make a difference? Sorry to hear about your cousin, that's a tough break, hopefully he beats the odds the doctor has given him.
As far as your mom, well, my mom is bi-polar and acts the same fuckin way, she acts like nothing is good in her life and can't appreciate shit. She's
self destructive and if it weren't for my dad, hell who knows where the fuck she would be. I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with her shit
myself. Moving away from her was the best thing I ever did for myself. I can actually talk to her a bit without being pissed off bitter from the first
word. I hope it works out for you Big guy, your real good people, try to keep yer chin up.RomanticViolence - 2-15-2007 at 11:54 AM
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Originally posted by Voodoobillyman
I hope it works out for you Big guy, your real good people, try to keep yer chin up.
BDx13 - 2-15-2007 at 01:03 PM
focus on grandad. spend time with him, tell him how you feel, try to get an honest answer from him about what he wants. and try to get some honest
answers from the doctors about different scenarios... what if he doesn't do the scan, what, specifically, are the possible reprocussions? if he does
the scan, what might they find, and what would they need to do depending on what they found? is there any reasonable hope for treatment, or is he
looking at a rough road downhill no matter what?
i'm sorry to say, but it sounds like you might need to sideline mom until she can get a grip. maybe caucus with your uncle and your grandmother, get
as many facts as you can, then talk with grandad. if this is the same uncle who's son just got injured at work, you might have to take the lead on
keeping you family focused and making some tough decisions.
i'm sorry if that came across a little cold. when it comes to extreme health issues like this, i'm all business. i've seen too many selfish
decisions made by healthy parties based on their own emotions that negatively effected the sick person. gimme the facts, gimme the scenarios, gimme
the statistics, and let's make some decisions in the best interest of the person who needs our help.
take a deep breath. stay strong. and keep us posted.XHonusWagnerX - 2-15-2007 at 01:32 PM
Thanks guys.... it means a lot to be able to vent here when shit is getting rough. Im definitly in one of those moods where I just want to run away!
Move somewhere and start over! Last time I was like that I really wanted to goto the Carolinas.... maybe Ill see you soon Voodoo!tireironsaint - 2-15-2007 at 10:26 PM
Hold fast, Honus. It sounds like you know what to do and who to focus on, just don't let the bullshit get in the way. I fully back BD's advice too,
take care of the priorities and pick up the pieces on the small stuff when you can. You're a good man, don't ever feel like you can't vent around us.XHonusWagnerX - 2-15-2007 at 10:38 PM
Well... unfortunantly it looks like things have taken a turn for the worse. Tomorrow I will be going to see my grandfather again and it might be for
the last time... I talked to him on the phone today and he wasnt sounding to well so I want to be sure to see him tomorrow.
My cousin is also going in for surgery tomorrow and they are hoping that he can come out of the surgery. He needed to have an emergency tracheotomy
and he has a really high fever. Right now they are preparing everyone for the worst, but they are giving a best case senerio of him being a
quadriplegic who can breath on his own. Right now the breathing issue is very debatable.
If you guys can just send positive thoughts to my grandfather and my cousin we would all appreciate it. Thanks again everyone.BDx13 - 2-15-2007 at 11:06 PM
This isn't gonna be easy, man. I'm tellin' ya, deep breath. Lots of Spalshot to keep you psyched up.clevohardcore - 2-15-2007 at 11:51 PM
Mant hat is alot of stuff Honus. I got ot admit I avoided this thread for my sanity. Things have been really rough over here and they are not letting
up. I see your in the same situation.
