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clevohardcore
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A question that needs a response
You are invited to a dinner and a party. Dinner is at a restaurant. Its a 30th suprise party for your wifes friend Lisa put on by her husband and her
friends. You get there and sit next to a couple people you don't know and start conversation. After 30 minutes your wife is facing you while sitting.
The husband comes up from behind her and kisses her on the cheek and puts his arm around her and says "hey" all this from behind her. Then he shakes
your hand and says thanks for coming. Then walks away.
What do you think? Do? Act?
Each aspect of the soul has it's own part to play, but the ideal is harmonious agreement with reason and control.
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moron
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I guess my line of questioning/action would depend on how my wife reacted to that guy hugging and kissing her.
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I'd go wish his wife a Happy Birthday and give her some spankin's.
Well, its this place where nobody works, and the pigs don\'t give you any shit. Everyone smokes weed and gets drunk all day. Its a place where
cunts like me and you can truly take it easy and relax. Know what I mean?
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im the jealous/ overreactiing type so with a few brews in me at a party you know i'd be pulling the wife aside for some interrogating. im sure its
harmless
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BDx13
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assuming my wife knew him and was ok with it, the fact the a guy gave her a hug and kiss on the cheek wouldn't bother me at all. (if it made her
uncomfortable, then i'd have a problem.)
the fact that he couldn't be bothered to introduce himself to me after the fact would definitely bother me.
If I fail math, there goes my chance at a good job and a happy life full of hard work.
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BDx13
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plus... i dunno about where you live, but after a decade in new york, the cheek kiss greeting seems almost mandatory among certain people. i've had
people i just met kiss me.
personally, i try to avoid the double cheek kiss and stick with the single. too much room for confusion there. but the euros, they love a good
double. if a good friend initiates the hello kiss, i really plant it on 'em. none of this air kissin' for me!
If I fail math, there goes my chance at a good job and a happy life full of hard work.
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| Quote: | Originally posted by BD
assuming my wife knew him and was ok with it, the fact the a guy gave her a hug and kiss on the cheek wouldn't bother me at all. (if it made her
uncomfortable, then i'd have a problem.)
the fact that he couldn't be bothered to introduce himself to me after the fact would definitely bother me. |
‘Do you know what a love letter is? It’s a bullet from a fucking gun. Straight through your heart.’
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If it was someone she was cool with for a while, I'd be easy about it. If it made her uncomfortable in the slightest way, myself and dude would have a
man to man discussion.
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Discipline
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| Quote: | Originally posted by BD
assuming my wife knew him and was ok with it, the fact the a guy gave her a hug and kiss on the cheek wouldn't bother me at all. (if it made her
uncomfortable, then i'd have a problem.)
the fact that he couldn't be bothered to introduce himself to me after the fact would definitely bother me. |
‘Do you know what a love letter is? It’s a bullet from a fucking gun. Straight through your heart.’
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Its most likely an over affectionate guy and means nothing, but I would most likely ask my wife at somepoint.
| Quote: | Originally posted by REV.PAULIE
HONUS-as much as i can't stand a great deal of what you really like (for my own reasons that i would never hold,nor impose,against you),YOU FUCKING
RULE!
YOU,HONUS,IS WHAT MAKES THE "EDGE" COOL.
YOUR FRIEND,
PAULIE |
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You should have stabbed his fuckin eyes out with your fork bro! Nah, I agree with the how your wife reacted thing.
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clevohardcore
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Na, dude is a arrogant piece of shit that has messed around on his wife in the past. Dude had his brothers and friends there and all I had was myself.
We would have thrown down otherwise.
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My wife was like "Hey" and smiled and laughed. The very thing you do not want to see.
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I would say that if she was open about it in front of you then you have nothing to worry about. He may have been trying to pull some shit and make you
feel like he has had some kind of shit with your wife, or could if he wanted to, but I doubt very seriously that she would have reacted in the way you
describe if there was anything to really worry about.
That said, it sounds like the guy is a complete douche sucking scumbag who needs to be taught some manners, but with those numbers stacked against you
(not to mention the grief you probably would have caught from the wife later on) I think letting it slide was the proper response in that particular
situation.
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clevohardcore
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I think he was seeing how far he could go. Now that her response not negative he may try and take it a step further when given the chance. I eeded to
get some points of view before we have at it. We left early and I ripped into her on the drive home. We argued and she siad the worst thing possible.
"Maybe he was just being nice". We haven't spoken since. Yes, its akward living with someone and not speaking.
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| Quote: | Originally posted by clevohardcore
I think he was seeing how far he could go. Now that her response not negative he may try and take it a step further when given the chance. I eeded to
get some points of view before we have at it. We left early and I ripped into her on the drive home. We argued and she siad the worst thing possible.
"Maybe he was just being nice". We haven't spoken since. Yes, its akward living with someone and not speaking. |
I'm sorry to hear this man, but she should understand what your problem was, especially if he strayed the way you said he has. It says to me his
intentions were not harmless and your wife should back you up in seeing this.
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| Quote: | Originally posted by clevohardcore
We argued and she siad the worst thing possible. "Maybe he was just being nice". |
no, I think the worst thing she could have said is something like "yeah, we fucked before, but we're just friends now". That's just info you wouldnt
need to know.
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Did you happen to notice how his wife reacted?
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Is your concern that maybe something did happen between them, or just that maybe he wants to try and see if something will?
If you know they don't have a history, go apologize to your wife immeditaly. Tell her you're sorry for gettin' hot, but that she means everything to
you, and you can't bear the thought of someone trying to demean her. Remind her (assuming she knows he's a cheat) that he is not a person of high
moral standard, and that you don't want him getting any ideas about his relationship with the woman you love.
The tough part will be in the future. When she hangs out with her best friend, is it usually just the two of them, or them and other women? Or is he
around, too? You might have to start tagging along on girl's night out.
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clevohardcore
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We had it out. I laid down the law. All is good. thanks for all your input. I needed to bounce this off some people before we had it out.
All is good and my wife will no longer talk with Lisa. Friendship is not that important to disturb a marriage.
I'm no idiot and I'm not getting played like a record.
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clevohardcore
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Dude was trying to get the best of me. He was able to. He had family and friends there. I had nothing.
His time will come when things are a little more even.
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| Quote: | Originally posted by clevohardcore
All is good and my wife will no longer talk with Lisa. Friendship is not that important to disturb a marriage.
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sucks for your wife and her friend that the husband is a dick, but this sounds like a good idea.
If I fail math, there goes my chance at a good job and a happy life full of hard work.
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i hate people like this.
similar thing happened to me.
shortly after i started seeing my girlfriend we
were out at a bar and her ex was there.
he came up and talked to her for a minute
and never really paid me any attention.
didnt say a word to me, and he knew i was her boyfriend
this was years ago now
but i still think he is a clown.
i didnt fight with my gf tho, no reason too.
i knew it was her ex.
didnt care about that.
just the fact he had no manners.
anyway,
it sounds like the guy is just a fuckin putz.
dont let it effect you marriage.
\"thank you very little\"
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Things like this is why I dont even like leaving the house. People as a whole don't know how to not be inconsiderate assholes and some dick is always
going to get under your skin in some type of situation.
I'm too old and tired to want to deal with the drama and repercussions of the drama coming from it anymore.
Get the 5 movie plan with Netflix and lock your doors.
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I was gonna say something similar to Duane like "focus on the fact that the guy is a douche and that is what made you angry not your wife's reaction".
It's tough to give advice like this though without really knowing the whole situation.
It sucks that your wife has to give up a friend because of this guy, but whatever works.
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