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XHonusWagnerX
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*I need help and/or ideas*
a 'friend' owes me $1150. Its my own fault for lending it in the first place, but I thought I could trust her. I let her $2100 about 3 years ago when
she moved from Boston to Denver and since then shes paid back less than half. Ive been really patient and decent about it, but now shes ignoring me.
Like turning off her cellphone, not answering emails etc. One of the times I called she actually answered and hung up without saying anything.
So.... Im pissed and Im not sure what to do about it. Any ideas?
| Quote: | Originally posted by REV.PAULIE
HONUS-as much as i can't stand a great deal of what you really like (for my own reasons that i would never hold,nor impose,against you),YOU FUCKING
RULE!
YOU,HONUS,IS WHAT MAKES THE "EDGE" COOL.
YOUR FRIEND,
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defstarsteve
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dude
kiss it goodbye
times are hard, and if she was a friend, someday you'll get a check...
but when you got bills to pay, you gotta prioritize
bugging her will make her feel less like trying to pay you...
I got people who owe me a lot of money...
who have made money off my money to pay their bills, and still can't pay me...
you can be pissed
but it wont get you paid,
unless you got friends with no necks and last names ending in vowels
and you can support their families while they go away for you, there is no good way to loan to people any money...
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You could threaten to take her to small claims court and see if she pays up out of fear of having a judgment registered against her.
‘Do you know what a love letter is? It’s a bullet from a fucking gun. Straight through your heart.’
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last time I went to Denver, I got in a fight within 12 hours. Next time I go, I can do the same.
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hire some fucking cholos to ask her nicely. But make sure at least one of em is looking at her crazy while rubbing his dick.
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| Quote: | Originally posted by defstarsteve
dude
kiss it goodbye
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Lesson learned: Don't lend money to people.
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XHonusWagnerX
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The reason I dont want to let it go is not so much because of the money, but because I refuse to do anything to make her life easier. I dont care what
stupid decisions shes made or whats happened since the day I lent her the money... I would feel better about it if she would at least have the balls
to say "Im not paying you" and hang up on me, but this avoiding me shit just pisses me off.
| Quote: | Originally posted by REV.PAULIE
HONUS-as much as i can't stand a great deal of what you really like (for my own reasons that i would never hold,nor impose,against you),YOU FUCKING
RULE!
YOU,HONUS,IS WHAT MAKES THE "EDGE" COOL.
YOUR FRIEND,
PAULIE |
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bolt cutters
fingers
1 each week theres no money
nah
it does blow though
i couldnt lend half the galoots I know $20 and expect it back yet alone 2Gs
it's childish on her part, and she should at least acknowledge the situation.
people blow
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I live in Denver...my last name ends in Y, which is sometimes a vowel 
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bombidol
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Fuck no dont let it go. A grand is lot of fuckin money. Go to the small claims court or someshit. Or Judge Judy. DUDE GET JUDGE JUDY! And wear a suit,
she always sides with the people wearing suits.
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Thats alot of money but going to court will cost much more. Maybe she has some guy in her ear telling her not to pay. I have no idea but whatever the
case you learned a very expensive lesson. If she does this she is no friend and never was.
Each aspect of the soul has it's own part to play, but the ideal is harmonious agreement with reason and control.
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bombidol
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I could not let that go personally. I would spend another grand going to where she lives to fuckin get it back.
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It is a lot of money yes, but chances are , you will never see that money again. All you really can do is try to forget the fact that you put your
trust in a friend, that really wasn't. There is a slight chance that as time goes on, she will grow to a better person, and want to pay you back, but
really, girls suck, and never grow to be better people.
I had lent a lot of money to a family member, and really should have known better. When ever i asked her for any of it, it only caused a fight, which
lead to me not being able to see another family member that I would never want to stay away from. I know I'll never get that money, and now she knows
I'll never lend her any again. I look at it like I bought my way out of ever feeling bad about all her financial problems.
Though you want to blame her for not paying you back, it's you that fucked up. move on and don't put trust where it is not fully deserved. The sooner
you can except you 're never going to get it back, the sooner you can move on.
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| Quote: | Originally posted by clevohardcore
Thats alot of money but going to court will cost much more. |
Small claims court is quite cheap actually. It doesn't cost that much to file a claim, you can represent yourself instead of paying for counsel, and
if you win you can ask for your costs to be attached to the judgement.
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i wouldn't let it go, but i wouldn't keep pushing right now.
wait a few months, write a short letter simply asking when she expects to pay you, if at all.
in the mean time, research costs and statute of limitations regarding small claims.
If I fail math, there goes my chance at a good job and a happy life full of hard work.
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I had a similar situation a few years ago but don't have any good advice. I sold a car to a friend. He was only approved for about 3/4 of the sale
price, so I offered to lend him the rest and had him sign a promissory note for the remainder of the money. It outlined a payment schedule and times
were really tight and I needed the money badly. He never made the payments to me, he definitely didn't have the cash, and I didn't want to take him
to small claims court, but there were definitely nights where I didn't have enough to eat because of him scumbagging out on the debt. We aren't
really friends anymore over it which sucks.
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Ya shit like that does suck.
Each aspect of the soul has it's own part to play, but the ideal is harmonious agreement with reason and control.
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XHonusWagnerX
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| Quote: | Originally posted by chris
I had a similar situation a few years ago but don't have any good advice. I sold a car to a friend. He was only approved for about 3/4 of the sale
price, so I offered to lend him the rest and had him sign a promissory note for the remainder of the money. It outlined a payment schedule and times
were really tight and I needed the money badly. He never made the payments to me, he definitely didn't have the cash, and I didn't want to take him
to small claims court, but there were definitely nights where I didn't have enough to eat because of him scumbagging out on the debt. We aren't
really friends anymore over it which sucks. |
see my problem is that people DO have money. We all do something during the day that we dont 'NEED' to do. Be it buying a coffee or a bottle of soda
at a conveience store... something like that. Well even if its just $1 a day, thats $30 a month that they could pay back on the debt.
Im SO fucking angry with her that I would like to fly to Denver just to call her a fucking cunt and wich her and her family dead. (I get really
verbally mean when Im this pissed)
I just cant relate to what shes doing AT ALL because I would NEVER do this to anyone on a debt, friend or not. You owe money.... you have a bill...
you pay! You may pay it back slow, but even $5 a month shows that your not an asshole and that youre making an effort.
| Quote: | Originally posted by REV.PAULIE
HONUS-as much as i can't stand a great deal of what you really like (for my own reasons that i would never hold,nor impose,against you),YOU FUCKING
RULE!
YOU,HONUS,IS WHAT MAKES THE "EDGE" COOL.
YOUR FRIEND,
PAULIE |
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Whatever you decide to do, chalk it up to a lesson learned. Never lend money you expect to get back. If its friends, I just give it to them, they
always give it back, in some form or other.
Now what I would do, is take out a full page ad in the Denver newspaper requesting my money back, with, perhaps, a picture of my ass.
Well, its this place where nobody works, and the pigs don\'t give you any shit. Everyone smokes weed and gets drunk all day. Its a place where
cunts like me and you can truly take it easy and relax. Know what I mean?
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XHonusWagnerX
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| Quote: | Originally posted by upyerbum
Whatever you decide to do, chalk it up to a lesson learned. Never lend money you expect to get back. If its friends, I just give it to them, they
always give it back, in some form or other.
Now what I would do, is take out a full page ad in the Denver newspaper requesting my money back, with, perhaps, a picture of my ass.
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Youre right I learned a lesson, but it was a shitty lesson because it taught me not to trust someone with money no matter how close I think I am to
them. I went out with this girl for over 3 years and we were good friends before and after. Now shes a cunt that I wish immense pain and suffering on!
See thats a funny idea. I was thinking more stuff like that or ways I can cause some havok with her email address/address etc.
| Quote: | Originally posted by REV.PAULIE
HONUS-as much as i can't stand a great deal of what you really like (for my own reasons that i would never hold,nor impose,against you),YOU FUCKING
RULE!
YOU,HONUS,IS WHAT MAKES THE "EDGE" COOL.
YOUR FRIEND,
PAULIE |
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| Quote: | Originally posted by upyerbum
Now what I would do, is take out a full page ad in the Denver newspaper requesting my money back, with, perhaps, a picture of my ass.
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Or maybe the paper ad, but with a picture of her with a black bar over her eyes stating "Deadbeat-debtor" under it 
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if you want I'll crap in a plastic bag, err make that a double plastic bag, put it in a fed ex tube and overnight it....i'll include a note saying
"shits on if yer not payin"
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I'm still tryin to collect $200 off some Toronto douchebag from the Merauder show I did there years ago. It's not very effective now considering how
far I live though.
I certainly understand not letting it go, fuck that. Harass the cunt til she pays up, petty childish shit if the adult way fails.
A lot of people ask me what kind of music I like. I love "soul music". My "soul music" isn’t a style, genre or niche. It’s music that is genuine. It’s
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XHonusWagnerX
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| Quote: | Originally posted by XnMeX
| Quote: | Originally posted by upyerbum
Now what I would do, is take out a full page ad in the Denver newspaper requesting my money back, with, perhaps, a picture of my ass.
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Or maybe the paper ad, but with a picture of her with a black bar over her eyes stating "Deadbeat-debtor" under it |
I feel bad talkin shit because you know who the person is.... but its just ridiculous at this point and $1150 is a lot of money.
| Quote: | Originally posted by REV.PAULIE
HONUS-as much as i can't stand a great deal of what you really like (for my own reasons that i would never hold,nor impose,against you),YOU FUCKING
RULE!
YOU,HONUS,IS WHAT MAKES THE "EDGE" COOL.
YOUR FRIEND,
PAULIE |
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Honus.
I was in the same situation, in May, it will be a year ago.
I lent a friend that I've known since I was a teenager, money. Well, not so much lent but bailed his ass outta jail. He got out, got a job, went on
vacations with his girl, went to the bar, and I never saw a dollar of that money. I bugged him about it at first. But he became a ghost... Wouldnt
answer phone calls, myspace messages, nothing. Finally I missed him as a friend and decided that I needed to let the anxiety of the money go. If you
talk to your person, and are on good terms, the odds of you getting the money back are much better, than if you dont talk at all. Just sayin.
But what fuck do I know. Hes back in jail and I havnt gotten a single dollar still.
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