Enyo
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We have another child- Just an update (sorry- long)
We have our second foster care placement now. He is a little boy, three and a half, but fairly signifigantly delayed.
He was severely neglected so he has the language development of a 1 year old, and the cognative abilities of a 2 year old. Physically though he is
every bit of 3 and a half. Which makes him dangerous..lol. He is big enough and coordinated enough to get into everything but has NO FEAR and no
concept of danger.
You would think that because he doesn't communicate well and I can't understand him half the time that he would become frustrated and tantrum but he
is really the sweetest child. He is such a lover.. always wants to be sitting near you or on you. 
He is doing SO well. I put him on a strict schedule and we have stuck to that everyday, so he was sleeping 10 hours within 5 days... and he has
learned about 100 new words in 3 weeks. He'll start speech therapy soon, but we're working with him already.
I wish I could tell you guys how crazy this case is, but as usual it's all hush hush. But.... this one really MAY go to adoption quickly. REALLY
REALLY quickly because his dad (the only relative that we know of) has already asked to sign away his rights. (Because he's a total piece of shit-..
It's really the best thing for "B".. but why did he DRAG him around and neglect him for almost 4 years BEFORE doing the right thing?!)
when and if..(you guys know the drill) I'll be posting LOTS of pics of him. He's a doll baby.
I never know if I should say anything.. I don't want to push this stuff on you guys, but you did seem really interested the last time...
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It's nice to see somebody putting in the time and effort for any kid like this. I'm happy for you.
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you are awesome
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awesome you're giving it another chance. good on you 
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i'm glad to hear that you didnt give up after your last experience, keep us up dated.
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Round of applause!
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Good for you
and good for the lil guy 
hope everything works out for ya'll
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| Quote: | Originally posted by defstarsteve
you are awesome |
and keep us updated!
| Quote: | Originally posted by REV.PAULIE
HONUS-as much as i can't stand a great deal of what you really like (for my own reasons that i would never hold,nor impose,against you),YOU FUCKING
RULE!
YOU,HONUS,IS WHAT MAKES THE "EDGE" COOL.
YOUR FRIEND,
PAULIE |
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| Quote: | Originally posted by defstarsteve
you are awesome |
and keep us updated!
| Quote: | Originally posted by REV.PAULIE
HONUS-as much as i can't stand a great deal of what you really like (for my own reasons that i would never hold,nor impose,against you),YOU FUCKING
RULE!
YOU,HONUS,IS WHAT MAKES THE "EDGE" COOL.
YOUR FRIEND,
PAULIE |
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I really hope this works out for you and this child. My son is that exact age so what you are talking about hits home. I really hope you can become a
blessing for this little boy. I hope it goes smooth for you and this child. He needs a loving family desperately. At this age my son is starting to do
so many things and it brings a tear to the eye of pride. I know once things work out you'll see it too. Good luck!
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Thanks for the support guys!
We are so in love with him. It will be a month he's been here on 7/7/09. Also the date of his first big court hearing and the day we get our new
central A/C Woohoo!!! We'll be celebrating on Tuesday!
Clevo- I know what you mean.... just watching him improve everyday is amazing. He's a different kid than he was just 3 weeks ago. He babbles and
giggles and is just the sweetest thing.
It's late and I'm about to ramble, but what the hell....
Being a foster parent is really crazy. It's SO much harder than I thought it would be, and I read all the right books and talked to the right people
and went to seminars beforehand. It's like... having a new husband show up, and expect me to do all the things I would normal do for a husband... but
there is no bond, no instant connection.... so it's frustrating, and expasterating, and just ridiculously hard. But it's also insane how quickly that
bond starts to develop. How you can begin to love and cerish a child you had nothing to do with making. and how angry you feel at the people who hurt
him so badly.
He has healed now... but the first week it was hard to take him anywhere.. he face was so banged up and his little body was just covered in bruises.
and everywhere we went people (mostly women) would GLARE at me.. and I had to NOT say anything. It was HARD.
This week at daycare he got into trouble for stealing food from the trash. The teacher gave me a hard time about it.. she KNOWS he is a foster child.
Granted she doesn't know that they were homeless and that he probably got food from the trash a LOT of the time, and it is impossible to fix 3.5 years
in 3 weeks.. and he probably still doesn't trust that we will feed him again in 3 hours. BUT.. It still hurt me so so much. By the way I am moving
him to a preschool who has multiple kids with special needs so he can get the one on one care he really deserves.
ok.. sorry for rambling.. again.. thanks for the support
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first off, i can't begin to tell you how excited i am to hear that you've decided to continue with the foster program. i'm sure it wasn't an easy
decision after your previous experience.
but just like last time, you're going into it with an open heart and open mind and you're doing your best.
children at this age are amazingly resilient. provided his issues are only developmental delays and not actual disabilities, i'm sure he'll catch up
with the help of loving parents and the right therapy.
looking forward to hearing more.
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you kick ass Enyo.
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| Quote: | Originally posted by juandiablo
you kick ass Enyo. |
Well, its this place where nobody works, and the pigs don\'t give you any shit. Everyone smokes weed and gets drunk all day. Its a place where
cunts like me and you can truly take it easy and relax. Know what I mean?
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| Quote: | Originally posted by upyerbum
| Quote: | Originally posted by juandiablo
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Couldn't have said it better.
Support the arts, shoot a rapper.
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You've got a big heart.
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